Comments on: A Marriage of Equals – Trevor and Karen http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/ A Daily Journal of a Permanent Resident of Paradise Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:05:10 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: More Wedding Pics - Trevor and Karen | Madang - Ples Bilong Mi http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/comment-page-1/#comment-2747 More Wedding Pics - Trevor and Karen | Madang - Ples Bilong Mi Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:52:31 +0000 http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/?p=6171#comment-2747 [...] Wedding Pics – Trevor and Karen I have a few less formal shots from the wedding of Trevor Hattersley and Karen Simmons last Saturday. I had a great time. I love weddings. [...] [...] Wedding Pics – Trevor and Karen I have a few less formal shots from the wedding of Trevor Hattersley and Karen Simmons last Saturday. I had a great time. I love weddings. [...]

]]> By: Wencke http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/comment-page-1/#comment-2670 Wencke Tue, 10 Nov 2009 08:27:47 +0000 http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/?p=6171#comment-2670 Beautiful! Beautiful!

]]> By: Steve Goodheart http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/comment-page-1/#comment-2662 Steve Goodheart Mon, 09 Nov 2009 21:48:32 +0000 http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/?p=6171#comment-2662 What you say totally makes sense, and again, is very touching. I'm so glad for you, your wife, and your friends. This kind of isolation can even happen in one's own home country, when you've lost most of your family to death or estrangement. Again and again, I've had to find and make surrogate families, and they have been as close and dear and meaningful as biological family ever was (not that biological families can't be wonderful.) What Christian writer Henri Nouwen says is so true: "“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.” What you say totally makes sense, and again, is very touching. I’m so glad for you, your wife, and your friends.

This kind of isolation can even happen in one’s own home country, when you’ve lost most of your family to death or estrangement. Again and again, I’ve had to find and make surrogate families, and they have been as close and dear and meaningful as biological family ever was (not that biological families can’t be wonderful.)

What Christian writer Henri Nouwen says is so true: ““When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.”

]]> By: MadDog http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/comment-page-1/#comment-2661 MadDog Mon, 09 Nov 2009 21:22:22 +0000 http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/?p=6171#comment-2661 Thanks, Steven. I expect that in many places where there is a small expatriate community and people are separated from their biological families for decades that close friends become surrogate family. In our gatherings we always speak of the group as a family and often use family relationship terms, brother, sister, etc. We even have family fights. It's a great comfort. Thanks, Steven. I expect that in many places where there is a small expatriate community and people are separated from their biological families for decades that close friends become surrogate family. In our gatherings we always speak of the group as a family and often use family relationship terms, brother, sister, etc.

We even have family fights.

It’s a great comfort.

]]> By: Steve Goodheart http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/2009/11/09/a-marriage-of-equals-trevor-and-karen/comment-page-1/#comment-2659 Steve Goodheart Mon, 09 Nov 2009 20:07:29 +0000 http://www.messersmith.name/wordpress/?p=6171#comment-2659 Simply wonderful! What a dear, moving post, my friend. Though I don't know any of these people, I was touched by their love and the celebration of that love by their friends. May they indeed by happy and know the causes of happiness, and may their years together be long and joyous! Simply wonderful! What a dear, moving post, my friend. Though I don’t know any of these people, I was touched by their love and the celebration of that love by their friends.

May they indeed by happy and know the causes of happiness, and may their years together be long and joyous!

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